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About Tom moving to Germany

Yes, it's maybe normal, that people are curious - and they all care for you, maybe, some even as much as they care for themselves. But sometimes you might need more support, or just less negativity.

When Tom decided to take the big plunge and come live with me in Germany, he got the run-around from most people he knew. Only one member of his family was truely supportive, wishing him luck and happiness - and a few friends admitted to honestly be missing him.

Here's what some people said:

  • you don't speak German
  • you won't even have a job, you'll depend on Karin totally
  • Germans are unfriendly, remember the Nazis
  • you are a bad husband, for leaving your wife
  • you are a bad father, for leaving your daughter with her mom

And this is, what nice people would say:

  • this is a great opportunity, to live in a foreign country for some time
  • if you really love somebody, you'll want to be with her anywhere
  • in case something goes wrong, we'll all be still here for you
  • Germany is a beautiful country, you'll love it
  • we'll be missing you, but we want you to be happy

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About me and Tom getting together

Whenever you do something, most people haven't done yet, you are bound to hear opinions, suggestions, advice - wether you asked for it, or not.

Tom and I met each other on the internet, in December 1998, a time when most people in Germany didn't even have internet access at home.

Here's some of the opinions I was freely offered then:

  • guys are only seaking cheap sex, when they go online
  • you already made one big mistake with your husband, you're in for another one
  • the guy is six years younger, that can't work out
  • Americans all carry guns, they are dangerous
  • chatting online doesn't mean you are communicating, everybody lies online
  • he's probably just after your money, you don't look that good

But there was also some positive feedback:

  • you have been treated badly for so long, go get yourself some love
  • he looks very sexy, why not give him a try
  • you should at least meet in person, to see if you're compatible
  • a younger guy will be good for your self-esteem
  • Americans are well-mannered, open-minded and fun to be with
  • isn't it great that you can get to know people from far away, over the web

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